"Depression is humiliating. It turns intelligent, kind people into zombies who can’t wash a dish or change their socks. It affects the ability to think clearly, to feel anything, to ascribe value to your children, your lifelong passions, your relative good fortune. It scoops out your normal healthy ability to cope with bad days and bad news, and replaces it with an unrecognizable sludge that finds no pleasure, no delight, no point in anything outside of bed. You alienate your friends because you can’t comport yourself socially, you risk your job because you can’t concentrate, you live in moderate squalor because you have no energy to stand up, let alone take out the garbage. You become pathetic and you know it. And you have no capacity to stop the downward plunge. You have no perspective, no emotional reserves, no faith that it will get better. So you feel guilty and ashamed of your inability to deal with life like a regular human, which exacerbates the depression and the isolation. If you’ve never been depressed, thank your lucky stars and back off the folks who take a pill so they can make eye contact with the grocery store cashier. No one on earth would choose the nightmare of depression over an averagely turbulent normal life.
It’s not an incapacity to cope with day to day living in the modern world. It’s an incapacity to function. At all. If you and your loved ones have been spared, every blessing to you. If depression has taken root in you or your loved ones, every blessing to you, too. No one chooses it. No one deserves it. It runs in families, it ruins families. You cannot imagine what it takes to feign normalcy, to show up to work, to make a dentist appointment, to pay bills, to walk your dog, to return library books on time, to keep enough toilet paper on hand, when you are exerting most of your capacity on trying not to kill yourself. Depression is real. Just because you’ve never had it doesn’t make it imaginary. Compassion is also real. And a depressed person may cling desperately to it until they are out of the woods and they may remember your compassion for the rest of their lives as a force greater than their depression. Have a heart. Judge not lest ye be judged."
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EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ THIS.
Depression is not a synonym for being sad or having a bad day/bad week.
It’s not a PHASE. It’s not a CHOICE. It’s not LAZINESS.
spread the word guys.
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reblogging to both my main and this blog. Because this needs to be said. A million times. Until people get it.
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Oh my god. I have never heard it described so perfectly. Every single thing, every sentence is spot on. Like I’m about to cry. If there wasnt such a stigma, I’d make the people in my life read this. (via damnitdisney)
(If anyone of you ever need someone to talk, you can talk to us. We can’t provide a cure or professional therapy, but we promise to hear you out, and we’ll do everything we can to be there for you. - Calling All Angels)
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We’re not here to judge. We’re here to listen, and if we can; to help.
We ourselves have been through rough times and hit rock bottom so we know how it feels, and we want to listen to you. We want to listen to whatever problem you have, whatever worry is burdening you, no matter how long ago it was, or how severe. If it hurts, we want to help you to find the strength to get past it.
We care and we want to help.
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Anonymous asked: What if you fall for your best friend? He's the most perfect guy for me ever and I completely fell for him. But I'm WAY too scared to ever tell him because I'm terrified of him not feeling the same way and making things awkward and ruining our friendship. But I'm absolutely in love with him. I'm just so scared of being "stuck in the friend zone" This might sound silly and not really a big deal, but I'm such a better person because of him and I can't imagine never ending up with him.
This isn’t an uncommon thing. There’s a reason he’s your best friend. There’s no right or wrong answer for this one, you just need to decide whether it’s worth the risk.
It can go so many ways once you tell him. One of my best friends told me the same thing, and things didn’t change between us. If anything, I respected her so much more for having the courage to be honest with me.
But babe, this is ultimately your decision. I can’t tell you he’ll feel the same way, and I can’t tell you that if he doesn’t then your friendship won’t get weird. But I also can’t tell you the opposite either. The only one that can tell you that is him.
Try, dropping subtle hints rather than coming straight out with it. Try testing out the waters by just being a little more intimate than usual, see how he reacts to that. That might give you an idea of how he’ll take it if you tell him.
Don't ever hesitate. Reblog this. TUMBLR RULE. When you see it, REBLOG IT.
朝思暮想: A plea. (slight edit)
Please, STOP SCROLLING for a second, JUST STOP. I am in dire need of help.
>What’s the deal?
First things first. I’m a closeted queer woman of color (Chinese) living in a conservative Muslim majority country, called Malaysia. More specifically, I…
Anonymous asked: this is a sort of confession. i am a christian who was just recently saved this year. i'm glad i made the decision and this church i'm in now, it's really awesome. everyone's friendly and great and has all this love for God to do great stuff. but they disapprove of gays. i don't know what to say. they support God's love for everyone but they think being gay is wrong. they're not extremists about it, but they still say no. and i just feel bad because i support love. universal love. that is all.
Do you feel bad because you support love, or is it because the disapproval makes you feel bad? Not that you have to answer to anyone, but perhaps sitting on that thought might relief you a little. It matters not what other people think, but what you feel is right.
Sorry if this doesn’t help much. I’ve left church for a while now. I’m not an atheist, but I have beliefs that would have gotten me rebuked, or sent to the pastor’s for an exorcism of some kind.
If you support universal love, so be it. You don’t have to bend yourself to please other people. Don’t feel bad about it. If you don’t know what to say, don’t say anything. Just smile, nod your head, then keep doing and believing in whatever you feel is right.
Cat
Denny’s story
I’m 20 years old and I live in Los Angeles.
Like anyone’s story, mine hard to talk about. But, I’m hoping that my story and how I got through it can help others who have nowhere else to turn. I know how it feels to have absolutely nobody to talk to, and to want to take your own life because it seems like the only way out.
I want to tell my story because I want everybody who’s been through anything similar to feel like they do have somebody to talk to. I will never turn away anyone who needs help.
So here’s my story:
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Anonymous asked: If I ask for advice, can you answer me back privately? :/
Of course.
~Denny~
